An old classmate messaged me today. She saw my post about homeschooling and got interested because her son was being bullied in school, and his study habits and grades were taking a turn for the worse.
A child being bullied is like a trapped rabbit cornered by predators. He hasn’t got the strength to fight, and he is unable to take flight either.
He can either pretend to be dead or get eaten alive.
Those of us who survived bullying did so by pretending to be dead.
It’s totally unfair. Why must children be forced to endure persecution that is considered totally unacceptable when applied to adults?
When adults get bullied at the workplace, they can fight back. They are, after all, much more capable of standing up for themselves.
If they are unable to fight, they take flight instead by finding another job somewhere else and leaving the toxic work environment.
Not so for children.
When children get bullied, they have neither recourse to fight or take flight. Fight and they get punished by the system. As for flight -- seriously? Resignation is not an option in schools, and parents seldom consider taking the child out of a school “just because he’s being bullied.”
So the poor kid is forced to bear it. Pretend to be dead. Of course his school performance suffers. You can’t pretend to be dead and get A’s at the same time.
So back to my schoolmate’s question: “How do I start homeschooling?”
Most homeschoolers begin by enrolling in a program that gives them a curriculum and lesson plans to follow.
Many homeschoolers stick with their program and curriculum their entire schooling life.
But not all of us do that.
Some homeschoolers begin adapting their curriculum and giving their children more and more freedom towards self-led study, until they are no longer getting curricula from providers.
Nevertheless, they continue enrolling with providers for the sake of documentation of their child’s schooling.
One homeschool provider that offers this documentation-only service is Home Life Academy.
There are also families that completely forgo annual registrations and simply let the child take the Department of Education’s Accreditation and Equivalency exam, which grants the child an elementary or high school diploma upon passing.
This is the route we are planning to take for our kids. And if our eldest passes the elementary test next year, I might let him take the high school test the year after that.
Hypothetically, he could go to college at 14. But whether that is a good thing for him is still something my husband and I will have to think about.
If you want to learn more about homeschooling, there is a Philippine Homeschool Conference that is held every year in Metro Manila. This year, it will be on October 22, 2016, at SM Aura Premier. Visit their Facebook page to learn more.
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